But I assure you, not every guy my age is lusting after sex.
It's also possible you're trying to access a page that has been moved recently.
In this case, I am the 20 year old guy (June 1991) with a 16 year old girlfriend (August 1995) I've read a lot and done some investigation, and I know the relationship with the girl I'm seeing is questionable and frowned upon.
As you said, she is going through changes, and she will want to do her own thing and not be committed to a relationship - and the relationships she will be involved with are just learning experiences - but you on the other hand are looking for a lasting relationship; I'm almost certain you aren't going to have a lasting relationship with this girl.
Like I said before, I have alittle bit of a bias due to me seeing girls get destroyed by older guys, and girls being so controlled and memorized by older guys that they have lived a life of drugs, alcohol, and sexual abuse (not saying that this would be the case in this situation).
Imagine what her parents would say, what alot of her friends would say about this.
Sure, 4-5 year difference doesn't sound to bad, but it is when you are younger.Ultimately, the decision is up to you, but I don't see how this is going to work out for you in the long run. People at different ages don't act like some foreign aliens to each other the way some people seem to present it, the difference is negligible at times.4 years isn't an enormous difference, I've dated a girl that young before and we just teased each other about it constantly.I'm fearing it will change too much, and she'll eventually leave me (like my ex did, when she experienced the outgoing life, she wanted to be free.) I don't want to be a snack, or be with her all for nothing because it might wind up being the same as her. Next time I'll see her I'm going to have a talk with her about this..That will be somewhere next week, and I'd like to hear some honest opinions from you so I can take that in consideration Other info: We're at the same school, same years different education (I'm doing a higher study at this school, hence the age difference..) and her parents approved of me and we can get along pretty well. and it is legal to be with her here in my country (the Netherlands) :] Advice?But I just had a pretty tough conversations with my parents about this, and I'm starting having doubts as well.