Annie empathized with him, but it hurt her to have a critical part of his life ruled off-limits to her.When we talked to Annie, she was about to take her ﬁrst extended vacation with Karl, a road trip up Highway 1 from Los Angeles to Portland. Annie said that, regardless of how he’d reacted, it probably wouldn’t matter very much after a decade.
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She wondered whether she should “take the next step” during the trip. (“He’s been talking about getting a smartphone for like three years.”) Should she be the ﬁrst to say, “I love you”? Imagine that you resolve right now to tell him, this weekend, that you love him. By then they’d either be happily together or she would be in a happy relationship with someone else.
How would you feel about that decision 10 minutes from now? I mean, obviously, I really would like this to work. So notice that, according to 10/10/10, this is a pretty easy decision: Annie should take the initiative.
After nine months, she still hadn’t met Karl’s adopted daughter (from his ﬁrst marriage), and neither person had told the other, “I love you.”Karl’s divorce had been horrendous, leaving him gun shy about another serious relationship.
After the divorce, he’d resolved to keep his daughter separate from his dating life.
What we’re feeling now is intense and sharp, while the future feels fuzzier.
That discrepancy gives the present too much power, because our present emotions are always in the spotlight.
10/10/10 forces us to shift our spotlights, asking us to imagine a moment 10 months into the future with the same “freshness” that we feel in the present.