However, I will say this: absence makes the heart grow fonder. My friend Scott, for example, hooked up with a girl a few times.
He was being pretty macho about it, leading her on while flirting with other girls to see if someone more interesting fell into his lap.
He was more exciting to be with than any of the 20-something guys I knew.
I wasn’t sure how it would go, yet there he was, charming the pants off them all by himself, busting out his A-material small talk with some friends in a corner. Instead I shoved a cracker in my mouth and mulled over her question as I pretended it was hard to chew. Yes, my new man was older than me, much older than me.
After politely playing 20 questions with Sue about my new boyfriend, I knew this was the one she was getting at.
Most importantly: has he given you any indication that he wants to move things beyond the bedroom? He introduced you to a number of his friends (one doesn't count) 2. You had brunch and/or watched morning TV instead of one of you just rolling out of bed and leaving 4.
He has made it extremely clear he's not seeing other people 5.
One night he hit this lady up around midnight but didn't get a reply.
He assumed he would wake up to see something from her. He started to wonder what was up until finally mid-afternoon he got that response: "Whoops sorry.
He's mentioned you in the future tense of "if you were my girlfriend..."If you haven't received any of those sorts of signs from him, you may be farther from the gf/bf status than you would like.
I hate (hate) to talk power dynamics in relationships, because more often than not the best thing to do when someone isn't as into you as you are into them is to just walk away. If you are getting mixed signals from him, just walk away a little bit and watch when he starts hitting you up earlier and more frequently than before.
For looser relationships it's often pretty obvious.