It is important to understand that if you are out with the is the goal. Your time together is the entire point, therefore there is no “end” to work towards, because if you do things right, you will be seeing her again soon anyway.Perhaps one of the more difficult but valuable things for men to do, is to learn to read women.
I have always said that a person who is not nice to the waiter, waitress, or bartender – is not really a nice person. When walking through a more crowded place, though, lead and help clear the path for her.
They can get everything right with how they treat you, but if they are rude to people they’re not trying to impress, this is a big red flag. For an added bit of charm, casually extend your hand behind you for her to hold onto.
But when your nerves begin to get to you, remember that she is out with you because she is interested in you as well.
Good eye contact is important, particularly when listening to her – it lets her know you’re paying attention. When being seated at a restaurant, allow her to go first and follow behind the host or hostess.
In a world where chivalry and courtship seem to be the stuff of history books, and men complain that they shouldn’t have to pay for dinner if women want equality – it is plain to see that we need to bring some dignity back to dating and relationships. Will she be offended if you pick up the whole bill? The idea is to set yourself apart by showing a woman that you are genuinely interested in her, and are willing to put in effort – not just during the first few dates, but over time (potentially forever).
My belief is that there are so many mixed messages about what women want in a relationship, that we, as guys, can easily get confused. If this sounds like a lot of work to you, consider this: A woman who loves and cares for you will always exceed or match your efforts. It is far more fulfilling to put effort into one relationship with a woman you truly love, than it is to put effort into always meeting a new woman a few months later because you didn’t give someone the attention she deserved.
The truth is, gentlemen, that the basic fundamentals of courtship have remained the same over time.
As a gentleman in the modern era, you immediately set yourself apart by how you carry yourself, how you present yourself, and how you treat others.
A gentleman is not kind to others because of who they are, he is kind to others because of who he is. If she takes it while following you, take this as a good sign.