We also have Christian singles and Messianic Jews who are divorced and are ready to find a soul mate for marriage.In addition, many of our members are part of Messianic Ministries or Messianic Israel Ministries and are Jewish Christians and Hebrew Christians.“In all honesty, there just aren't many attractive men on there.
“I don’t really meet Jewish people in everyday life; I don’t go to Jewish events and my social circle isn’t particularly Jewish.
My friend was on JDate and said it was fun.” Some of the issues she's come across are similar – lots of messages from people in the older age bracket, and guys who are based in wildly inconvenient locations, like Israel or America.
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As well as the issues of “he's too pious,” or “he's just a bit boring,” there can be far greater worries about whether potential suitors are simply weighing up your worth based on your ability to secure them a visa. The whole experience raises a bigger question: how do you find someone of faith to share your life with when you are in a minority?
“I've tried a few of the most popular Muslim dating sites,” says Aisha*, a Sunni Muslim. Sure, there are success stories – we've all known someone who knows someone who found her “soulmate” online.
“On one, I got loads of emails from men 15 years younger than me living in Pakistan and India, who just wanted an opportunity to move to the West. They will tell you that if you just want it enough, and you keep trying, and you accept that you have to get through 50 frogs to find the one great catch, and you don't give up hope even on your 70th appallingly bad date…then you'll get there. But as for me, I'm exhausted even thinking about it.
“I contacted the administrator of the website and asked her how to stop these creeps from constantly clicking on my profile and sending me emails. It turns dating into a full-time job, and I'm already lucky enough to have one of those. Maybe there I will use more Christian dating websites in the future, but for now, I'm leaving my love life in the hands of God.
Leah*, an accountant from London, tells me how she joined JDate, the leading dating website for the Jewish community, because it's important to her that the potential father of her children would be able to teach them about their heritage.
“It's pressure from my family but also pressure from myself – I think life would just be easier, and better, if my partner was Jewish,” she tells me.
There's also the sense that some men are using their profile to advertise themselves as the perfect Jewish husband-in-waiting: “Lots of them are just looking for a wife, ASAP – they post pictures of them with their nieces and nephews, basically saying, 'look what a great dad I'll be'.