RELATED: The 4 mistakes that cost this man his marriage Watch out for men who spend money frivolously.I had a woman tell me how flattered she was when her boyfriend booked her a posh hotel room, filled it from corner to corner with freshly cut roses, and had an expensive dress lying across the bed just as a surprise to show her how much he cared about her.Instead of those flags just sitting there while you ignore them, let me wave a few of them for you. If your man wears more than one ring per hand, more than one bracelet per wrist, and more than one necklace per neck — RED FLAG. If he is always the one who’s overdressed for the occasion — RED FLAG. If your man is constantly spending money on you without regard to price (i.e., clothes, trips, jewelry) and he can’t afford it — RED FLAG. If your man constantly asks to “hold” some money or expect you to pay while on dates — RED FLAG. If he approaches you with a flattering, yet rehearsed line — RED FLAG. If he says he has a job but can’t articulate exactly what it is he does for a living— RED FLAG. If he talks about himself more than he inquires about you — RED FLAG.
Let him know, for instance, that you’ll only cook every day for your husband.
Show him you’re willing to stand by his side — to a point.
Understanding the Playa Some hunters hunt to survive; others hunt as a hobby. As the saying goes, “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” Well, the same goes for men. Chances are, you won’t get much more than surface information out of him if he isn’t comfortable with you. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been friends forever or even if you’re married.
Women are often cautious of the infamous playas, but these are the men you want to keep close. Be patient because he will be more focused on getting to know you better than allowing you to get to know him. When you gain his trust, he will share more information than you ever cared to know. Most playas are proud of their tactics and are more than willing to hip you to the game.
Granted, I’d have to give the brother an “A” for style and originality, but when I said to her, “Wow, he must be paid! He’s living with his mother right now, but he just really likes me.” All I could think was, 'This fool must have fallen and bumped her head.
I understand it may have been a flattering gesture, but don’t reward a man with attention and praise for foolishness.' Now, if he has no problem affording lavish gifts, that’s another story.Contrary to popular belief, a playa’s objective isn’t always about having sex with a multitude of women; it’s about knowing he could if he wanted to—the thrill of the hunt. He wants his kryptonite to beat down your God-given power.He wants to get you to do the things he wants you to do, when he wants you to do them.Again, men are aggressive by nature, with animal-like instincts — they are hunters. He has become lazy and apathetic, and patiently dies because he is no longer accustomed to hunting for his own food. They are so accustomed to women chasing them that they have become lazy and unwilling to hunt. By that I mean don’t move to another city, change jobs, or change universities. I can’t begin to tell you how many women have done this and come up empty-handed. Valentine's ideas for every stage of your relationship As a hunter hunts, he is very observant of everything around him.What’s a hunter to do when his prey basically walks up and lies down at his feet? Let’s say we take a lion out of his natural habitat and every day we bring his food to him. This type of aggression rarely, if ever, wins a man’s heart. If he is serious about you, he will do what it takes. Therefore, it’s great to show your man you have a variety of skills, but don’t overdo it.Too many women sell themselves short by settling for a man with an attractive exterior.