But each unique person’s perspective on your situation usually carries some truth in it, and therefore, everyone’s thoughts are important for you to know.
If you find that some of the statements about your date are true, it doesn’t mean you need to make an immediate decision to break it off with your partner or to distance yourself from your family or friends.
The question you want to know the answer to—and without reservation—is: “Am I making a good decision by being with this person?
And it's not like they were local either, they live in Quebec, and we drove there for the weekend. I'm a good son-in-law I met my wife's parents 3 weeks after we started dating.
And it's not like they were local either, they live in Quebec, and we drove there for the weekend. I'm a good son-in-law She'll just move out and rant about it on RFD.
It may even create friction between you and the person expressing the negative judgment.
No one likes to hear negative input, but if someone’s comments trigger a large amount of self-doubt, you may want to look deep within and ask yourself if you know clearly enough whether your romantic relationship is a solid one and whether you have the skills and knowledge necessary to know what a good, long-term potential relationship even looks like.
As soon as the relationship becomes serious and you expect it to be long term, meeting the parents is something that needs to be done IMO I think that most girls are nervous to meet a guy's parents b/c of the thought that guys are more likely to be mama's boys..we all know the jokes and TV shows dedicated to the tension between wife and mother in law (look at Everybody Loves Raymond) I think a good meeting is dinner at the house This is a guy's perspective as well IMO, the length of time does not matter.
As soon as the relationship becomes serious and you expect it to be long term, meeting the parents is something that needs to be done IMO Because when a guy introduces a girl to his parents, everyone knows: -The dad is judging her hotness (atta boy son factor) -The mom is judging her potential for wifeyness -The girl is judging the whole family picture to see how you treat your parents and what kind of family you have.
-You are seeing if she meshes well with your family, if your family accepts/approves of her, and also you are seeing another step on the commitment road achieved, bringing you one step closer to a wife, kids, and a minivan. ^^ hahah gotta love the mini van comment in there lol but in all honesty lets be realistic here...usually people will start getting "serious" by 2-4 months, and i'm not just saying bed sheets moving around but other thoughts.
Because assumption is that you'll be seeing that person at least once a week if not twice (fri sat for us weekenders) and maybe some more inbetween the week for a good duration of time (4 hrs) (say 7pm-11pm outings) so crunching the numbers here and assuming the minimum 4 hr "dates" for twice a week meets that's 4 x 2 (fri sat) x 9 weeks (2 months) = 72hrs minimum...that's 3 whole days you've spent with that person, hopefully not just sleeping : P keeping in mind that's the MINIMUM time. Her Dad will soon accept that the hand you shook his hand with is the same on that was feeling up his daughter.
Instead, take some time to think about how the less positive qualities in your partner may impact your life and your expectations that you have about the kind of relationship you want.
Also keep in mind that those people who initially disapprove of your date may actually change their minds should your relationship with your date bloom into something more serious. What matters, though, is the truth, and more importantly, how you handle the truth. Being able to handle the truth empowers you to make good decisions When someone important to you doesn’t like the person you are dating, it creates self-doubt that can make you second-guess who you are and what you’re doing.
Then after a little while it'll be vice versa for the girl to meet the guys side.