Joy Davidson, the stakes are generally higher for her.
“Remember that getting ready for a first ‘meet-up’ takes as much time and effort for a woman as a real first date,” Davidson explains.
Women are told to A) Meet their date in a public, B) Let someone know where they'll be and with whom, C) Bring a cell phone, and D) Have an exit strategy. No matter how hot you are for her, or how hot she seems to be for you online, in person, the first thing she’s going to try to suss out is whether or not you’re to be trusted.
Granted, if you two don’t click, they might just be karma points, but if there’s chemistry, you’ll have avoided turning her off by lacking finesse.” NEXT: Don't Take Her Skepticism Personally [pagebreak] Most online dating advice regarding safety is geared toward women, and not without good reason.
Sexual predators constantly troll the Internet looking for prey, and ladies who trust too easily can, and do, wind up in compromising or even dangerous situations.
To have the best possible time, while preserving your physical and mental wellbeing, read on.
NEXT: Before You Go [pagebreak] Your first meeting is about you, certainly, but says psychologist, sex therapist, advice columnist, speaker and author, Dr.
“You needn’t go so far as to spring for dinner, but a drink in a nice environment, or even lunch, will make a far better impression than coffee at the local Starbucks,” she says.
“By treating her with respect, picking up the check, and in general being cool, you’ll win points.So if she's being a little less forthcoming with personal information or unwilling to go somewhere more private, she’s exercising common sense.Let her, and also bear in mind that common sense works both ways—the aforementioned cautions all hold merit, for her as well as for [pagebreak] One of the biggest mistakes of online communication is thinking a relationship forged from over-sharing is the real deal.Now, it’s time to actually link up with “the one”—or one of the ones—beyond the digital realm and in reality.It's always your best bet to take your Internet conversation into the real world as soon as possible before you establish a virtual rapport that can become awkward and stilted when it has to translate into face-to-face.“If someone starts talking about the future at the first meeting, or even if she jumps into bed with [you] the same night (unless it was a sex match-up site), be on the lookout for a clingy, dependent type,” Davidson warns. Some information will be designed to ensure her own safety; other information is just inappropriate—like discussing or asking about intimate details of past relationships early on.