In the beginning, it’s all new and fresh and if he’s really into you he will be thinking about you a lot and will feel the urge to text you frequently.After some time has passed and the relationship is a bit more established, this urge isn’t as pressing and it begins to feel like work.
Hold onto your seats, ladies, this might come as a major shock: men to make you happy. I know it can sometimes feel like he’s intentionally trying to make your life more difficult, and while he may be driving you nuts, deep down all he really wants is to provide for you and give you what you need. Men aren’t women (sorry to throw another shocker at you there! They aren’t able to intuit the nuances and decipher the clues.
If you want him to give you what you want, tell him what it is that you want!
While she’s trapped in her head, she’ll ignore all the amazing things he does for her, the things that should show her beyond a shadow of a doubt that he loves her! This doesn’t mean they’re incapable of feeling love, – it just means they often have a hard time saying it out loud.
Women get so tripped up in relationships by honing in on the words while it’s really the actions that say it all.
I can relate to all the questions we receive on a personal level because once upon a time, I too was banging my head against the table in an effort to understand .
It wasn’t an easy process, but I eventually reached a point where it all made sense and all my questions and confusions suddenly evaporated.
I don’t know what the biggest relationship concern was back in the days of touch-tone phones, but these days, it’s all about a guy’s texting habits: why he used to text so much in the beginning and then stopped, why he takes so long to reply, why he disappears for days at a time, why his texts are so short, etc., etc.
The really sad/funny thing is that men have NO idea how intensely their texting habits are being scrutinized. There are all kinds of reasons why this is such an issue for women and why men are so oblivious to it – reasons we’ve discussed at length in previous articles– but the takeaway is that this whole thing is a non-issue for men. Yeah, they’ll text a lot in the beginning when they’re trying to win you over, but it’s not sustainable or realistic to continue at that level indefinitely.
For instance, let’s say a woman is in a truly amazing relationship and the only problem is her man has yet to say those three not-so-little words.
She may start to obsess over why he hasn’t said it and what it means.
Sadly, a lot of relationships collapse before they even get off the ground because the girl can’t handle the sudden decrease in daily texts and instead of dealing with it, she lashes out at the guy and demands explanations for every text he doesn’t reply to.