A woman’s dating preference is the ultimate paradox. In two studies highlighted in “Sex Roles, A Journal of Research,” the “nice guy paradox” is explored.The thing is, while we’re constantly on the lookout for that super sweet, caring guy who will make a great companion, we’re actually attracted to the guy who ignites passion within us. There’s just something so satisfying about taking the jerk home from the bar who’s spent most of the night intellectually challenging you in a heated verbal debate. This nice guy stereotype contends that women often claim they want a nice guy, a man who is sweet, kind and sensitive, and yet, when it comes down to it, she rejects this man for one with “other salient characteristics” like a hot body or an ultra strong personality.
So it’s sex that ultimately drives a woman into the arms of the alpha assh*le. A study from researchers at Hartpury College in England, of 146 British women, ages 18-24, found that even the most seasoned daters still tended to fall for men who expelled narcissistic qualities.
The narcissistic male does not make a good partner, but even experienced females do not realize this. In a tragic twist of fate, the assh*les are now breeding assh*les. The tests are tried and true; women habitually chase these d-bags, despite how many times they have their hearts broken.
This may explain why we are so clueless at what we are doing in bed, but we act like we know. It's nice to hear nothing but your lover's breath against the backdrop of the evening or early morning.
You can be making a total mistake, but as long as you're confident, it will turn out okay.
When I just throw it all out the window and dismiss it as "crazy," it makes it easier to deal.
We don't really think women are insane, we just say it so we can be done thinking about their antics and move on.We choose assh*les because of the danger factor involved in dating guys who are strong and conceited.We know they’re wrong for us, they’ll never treat us the way we think we deserve to be treated, and instead of running for the hills, we jump on for the ride. No woman wants to be with a man who doesn’t know how to assert himself.Both studies found that “nice” qualities were more desirable for long-term relationships while physical attractiveness prevailed in terms of sexual relationships: Niceness appeared to be the most salient factor when it came to desirability for more serious relationships, whereas physical attractiveness appeared more important in terms of desirability for more casual, sexual relationships.As hypothesized, women who placed a lesser emphasis on the importance of sex had fewer sexual partners, were less accepting of men who had many sexual partners and were more likely to choose the nice guy as a dating partner.Sign up for shopittome.com's "Sale Mail." They'll e-mail you when brands you've chosen have gone on sale in your size and in your area. Once I accepted that women were "crazy" (many older guys had insisted they were for years), it seemed to take a huge load of pressure off me.