I knew what I wanted and needed, but I didn’t know where to turn.
As my wife and I started to grow apart after 19 years of marriage, the conflict between the desire to be happy, and the desire to honor the marriage started to collide. As we drifted apart, we began turning to external forces in order to maintain our sanity and marriage. I used to read about lonely housewives, now I was becoming one, a lonely house husband.
The thought of being married but alone is not something I was prepared to handle. You see, I don’t remember the exact point in time, perhaps 5 years into our marriage, but I started catching myself fantasizing about other women – sexually and otherwise.
It can be done with the utmost discretion and attention to one’s privacy.
The bad news is that it is difficult to find a married dating site that is discreet, safe and filled with honest and like-minded married people looking to spice up their lives.
Don’t get me wrong, my love for my wife didn’t just disappear into thin air.
I guess I just wanted something new…I wanted that new spark and excitement. We have kids together, a joint bank account and a real friendship.
I found that women enlisted with traditional dating sites were a bit put off by a married man looking to date, go figure.
I certainly couldn’t turn to friends for introductions for obvious reasons.
And because of that and a host of other reasons, these women are mature and sophisticated enough to understand the concept of discreetness.
For the sake of full disclosure, there were a few profiles that seemed to slip through the cracks, and times where the lonely married women would not be interested in me or what I had to offer…I guess you can’t have a cake and it too!
I know from personal and unfortunate experience that there is nothing more unsatisfying than being in a marriage that host lost that spark and magic.