That’s why I thought it would be great to meet and see if you had any concerns.” If you have kids of your own, say so—this can help assuage their anxiety.
Then, dive right into any questions you have about the kids, like “I hear that your son has asthma; is there anything I should know about if he has an attack?
didn’t expect: from Wayne’s ex-wife, who wanted to meet up.
Wary, Cindy acquiesced but soon regretted it, as she sat there listening to the ex rant about how she and Wayne “would never last” and that Cindy had better “stay away” from her kids.
Sure, you should try to be understanding and accommodating of an ex when it comes to his or her kids.
But that doesn’t mean you should be shut out completely from your date’s family life.
In any case, if it’s unclear whether the ex will be fine with you going, always ask your honey to check first. No matter how unfair or outrageous, ask yourself this question: How will my going affect the child?
If there’s a big blow-up fight between you and the ex, the child suffers more than anyone, so keep this in mind as you put your pride aside and stay home that night.
And needless to say, this can throw a major wrench in your budding romance.
Fortunately, you can smooth things over, keep things civil, and even get along with your date’s ex-spouse.
Here’s some advice that’ll help keep you — and your new relationship — as drama-free as possible.
If you’ve just started dating a single parent and have gotten rumblings that the ex is displeased — with how you deal with the kids or because you’re keeping your new amour away from family duties — don’t assume the situation will improve once you two become an official item or are married.
So when you do meet up with them, you’ll have a much better discussion if you allay their suspicions from the get-go.