When you are a child and your sadness causes you to cry, you may evoke a comforting response from others. If they are lonely and sad, children may assume other people don't like them when this is rarely the case.Victims of bullying may well have fans and friends, but they often aren't aware of it because the shame and loneliness get more attention.If you realize you are dealing with an emotional habit, you can make a plan to learn how to fight loneliness.
The brain is designed to pay attention to pain and danger, and that includes painful scary feelings; therefore loneliness gets our attention.
But then the brain tries to make sense of the feeling. Reach out, because loneliness is painful and can confuse you into thinking that you are an outcast.
And once you have a friend or two, nourish those friendships with time and attention.
Don't be too cautious about whether you are giving more than you are getting at first.
So I parse them out between friends and family, sometimes oversharing because I just need someone to validate my existence.
I'm not saying it's wrong that I'm not the top priority (of course family should come first). Giphy When you're not part of a couple and you're living alone, physical touch goes out the window. I'm talking mundane, everyday, almost-no thought-put-into-them touches.
Yes, it is work, but it is worthwhile, just like exercising is worthwhile even when you are feeling tired or lazy.5.
By focusing on the needs and feelings of others, there will be attention on your lonely thoughts and feelings.
This can happen among a crowd of friends or even after making love.