One of my long time friends, is the most gorgeous and enigmatic, energetic woman, open and free, well spoken, well put together, successful, confident and newly separated.She was married for nearly 7 years and is now finding herself for the first time perhaps in years.
I read somewhere not so long ago that women tend to become emotionally connected for up to three weeks after a sexual encounter.
When I thought about the reasons why that specific amount of time, I reasoned, 21 days to create a habit, 21 days to break one…
Well I don’t actually agree with that statement for many reasons.
The first one being, I believe you can break a habit immediately if you choose to and while it could take 21 days to create a habit, when it comes to sleeping with someone, well, that could only take 21 minutes. A genetic predisposition to procreate and get as much practise in spreading their seed as possible… But unlike us girls, they can ‘do it’ without the emotional attachment, yes, that means wham bam thank you mamm!
A tall diagnosis and it breaks my heart to see her in a constant state of pain.
Her emotional attachment is obvious and with great expectations that are continuously being unfulfilled… As a coach, a single sexually active woman and a friend to many women – we are not totally capable of having a sex without getting emotionally involved to some degree…..If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone emotionally unavailable, you know the pain of not being able to get close to the one you love.They’re evasive, make excuses, or just inept when it comes to talking about feelings or the relationship.Now she has never admitted she is lonely and wishes they’d call her, in fact, she blows off the ‘contact after sex’ and makes out she doesn’t want them to bother her but I suspect deep hurt at the underlying rejection that is really going on.Samantha says she is in control, but her non-actions might reflect the opposite view…Most importantly, the thing we need to remember is that women are emotional animals and yes, we are animals after all (let’s not forget that). But the question is, can women do the same thing without getting emotionally attached?