However, in a dating situation, kissing on the lips, and especially French kissing, means one and only thing: you want to be in a relationship with the person.
I’m saying it again: if you kiss somebody on the lips in France, it means that you consider this person as your boyfriend or girlfriend and that you want to be exclusive and in a relationship with them (long or short term doesn’t matter here, though). On the other hand, remember that French society and French people are not as messed up as Americans are when it comes to sex.
In the US, I’ve had some first dates going great and everything went south afterwards because the girl felt I was calling too much, pretty much harassing her. I remember a few years ago, the last time I had a French (female) roommate. One day, she was all worried and stressed and pissed because he hadn’t called/emailed/messaged in about 8 hours!
Also note that blind dates are almost non-existent in France.
But also note that all of those things have been changing a lot in recent years because of internet dating that has become extremely popular in France, and especially in Paris. So if a French woman says no when you ask her out (or anything else), it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to go out with you, it means she’s playing hard to get, and you’ll have to ask several times.
As much as we’d like to deny it, underneath their scarves, French men are pretty regular dudes. Well, like with anyone, dating French men has good sides and bad sides.
) But French guys can also probably wax poetic phrases, drop Jean-Paul Sartre quotes out of thin air, and make everything sound sexier with a French accent.
Do you simply go to the country, you meet the man, and there you go? Everything in our lives is influenced by our cultures. Especially dating…Ignoring the dating rules of the country you’re in will cause trouble and failures in your dating attempts (yes, I’m sadly talking from experience here, Jennifer, if you read this : “sorry, I misunderstood a few things back in 1998”).
The dream of every foreign woman, and a few gay men too…But how make this dream come true? One big mistake a bunch of people make when dealing with love and relationships is to assume that: Wrong!
It is the case with any rule, but even more so with dating, especially because too many people assume that dating is .
With that being said, I know you’re all dying to know the rules of dating in France… Well, that’s not exactly true, but let’s say that there are much fewer rules than in many other countries, especially the US (as usual, I’ll compare mostly to the US, partly because this is the foreign culture I know the best, partly because most of the readership is American). Asking someone else out in France is not that different from many other places I guess.
But early in the night, when people are still quite sober, it’s really rare.