“We have a lot more choices available to us, and that should be a good thing, but it makes it much more challenging,” says Carnegie Mellon University marketing professor Chris Olivola. When it comes to online dating, you might have a better chance at love if you let someone else pick your match.Join The Conversation On The KDKA Facebook Page Stay Up To Date, Follow KDKA On Twitter “What we found in our research is that when people choose for other people, they tend to make rational big picture choices that they wouldn’t even make for themselves,” says Olivola.In the real world, a person is a package and you might not notice their eye colour, but online you cross off people for the most base physical reasons.
‘It’s left men and women on a never-ending hunt for the perfect partner, thinking: “A few more dates and I’ll find The One.” In my work, I’ve met plenty of women who think there’s always a better guy out there.‘The danger is that it results in a string of meaningless flings.
Apart from the risk of sexually transmitted disease, ultimately a never-ending quest for grass that’s greener means that women (and men) don’t face the realities of relationships.
Over the past decade, she’s tried ten websites, had dates with 40 men and chatted — online or over the phone — to countless other potential suitors.
But after one serious heartbreak and hundreds of pounds spent on subscription fees, love still eludes her.‘In many ways, internet dating is a great way to meet people, but it’s such a whirlwind of highs and lows,’ she says.
Another issue is that singletons who spend weeks or even months emailing a potential mate before meeting them often have unrealistic expectations.‘Also, he’s unlike any man I’d gone for before.
PITTSBURGH (KDKA) – There are millions of singles out there and millions of them are dating online. With one in 10 Americans online-dating, there should be plenty of potential mates, but that can be part of the problem if you can’t find a match.So on the last stage of this process, we created a different Web site.And that different website allowed people to experience other people without all of these attributes.They’ll write anything women want to hear on their profile.’ She admits she found internet dating addictive.‘It’s exciting when you get an email in the morning that says you’ve had 20 views. Unfortunately, you then look at who’s shown interest and your heart sinks.But it still encourages you to think that if you keep going, there’s got to be someone better next time.’‘The websites ask for your preferences on height, weight, hair colour and even eye colour.While she had plenty of male friends, nothing developed romantically, so she signed up to a dating site. But they got back together, probably when he first disappeared, and later he wanted a bit on the side.‘Some are upfront, but many are not honest.