The Polite Decline In certain situations, you may (or should) feel tempted to respond to a suitor with a polite decline.
Here are 4 things to know to help you move forward in the online dating world with your self-esteem intact! All a guy knows about you is 20 sentences and a few mediocre pictures.
If they don’t “pick” you, take a deep breath and remember: There are 1000 reasons a guy won’t be interested and 999 of them have nothing to do with YOU.
Believe me, most men are so much better at this online dating thing than we are. (But keep in mind that men, especially men dating in their 40s, 50s and beyond, still have the same dating challenges we do; sometimes worse.) So just know this, and heed my advice to let the feeling of online rejection wash over you.
They get told ‘no’ wayyyy more than we do, but they understand that this is a process, accept that and keep going. Let’s separate true rejection with what you consider as online rejection. Guys in their older years have the statistical advantage – there are more of us (women over 40 looking for love) and fewer of them (men over 40 doing the same). “I’d figure he probably went off to live his busy life and, since he didn’t really know me, I just kind of dropped out of his mind. Also heed my advice about how to make online dating work best for you. One advantage to being a woman over 40 is that you have the perspective of a life well lived.
Take responsibility for managing your feelings, and use this as the powerful tool it is to lead to you love.
One of the coolest parts of jumping into the world of online dating is getting your first messages from potential gluten-free suitors.
â€ These types of toe-in-the-water messages are lame, and you donâ€™t necessarily need to feel pressure to respond.
The cold shoulder is also appropriate for messages that go beyond your comfort zone.
They want someone under 5’2”, someone who skis, someone without kids, someone who lives closer, etc.
These things have absolutely nothing to do with who you are or even what you look like.
The key is to be polite, not disrespectful for hurtful (no one deserves that).