ENFP with INTJ however is actually not that bad when you compare it to what he suggested is ideal for an INTP, an ENFJ.
Dominant Fe with Dominant Ti is just a horrible idea, that is just recipe for constant suppression. The things about INTJ INTP only working if the male is INTJ and the female is INTP, is total bullshit, gender of the personality types is irrelevant.
Sounds to me like she is kicking your ass in debating.
Also, she is an Ni dom, so you should try using more Ne with her, they will listen to Ne before listening to your Ti. We dated for 8 years before getting married 11 years ago, so we've been together a long time, and we are one of the happiest, most compatible couples I know.
Or at least they don't see it as an exercise to work out ideas. x NTJ's see debating as an exercise to smash other worldviews to bits, so bring your A-game pansy, because they play to win.
I wasn't, so I can't see where it would make much difference.
However, if you would have issues with a woman who was more assertive than yourself, you will need to find a way past those issues before you get involved with an assertive woman of any personality type.
Just because in our culture the male is supposed to be directive, doesn't mean male Adaptives are not allowed to be with female directive types.
All that means is that our cultural norms are fucking retarded and don't take reality into account.I personally think the system as it stands is broken.I think the test should be altered (And yes I know that is the core of myers briggs, but so what, things need to change sometimes) it makes much more sense just to test the dichotomies.It is not often that I meet people that I really admire (and are cute! Now, I know INTJ is not on the short list of compatible matches for INTPs (at least for male INTPs). We dated for 8 years before getting married 11 years ago, so we've been together a long time, and we are one of the happiest, most compatible couples I know. Always respect her intellect, and be very, very careful with criticism. (Usually along the lines of exchanging witty insults for 15 minutes straight before one of us runs out. There is a re-match every week.) The times he is pleasant though is great. In terms of achieving, I do alright, but I probably don't live up to my professional potential, but that is by choice. If you are only correcting the logic of her argument she will think you are getting stuck on the details and not seeing the bigger picture.I'm sure it is that way for a reason, but I'd like to try to push my boundaries and embrace the differences while still having fun. Actually they are a great pairing, INTJs have all of the cognitive functions we don't and they use them in an order that are inspiring to us. It is because we both work hard at the relationship and follow our three rules: 1. But if you feel a good connection with your INTJ, you could be in for a very happy relationship. There is a re-match every week.) The times he is pleasant though is great. She uses her NT powers to great worldly success whereas I tend to be less practical and underachieving. I value other things besides climbing the ladder and making money. Essentially getting stuck on a single Te string of a massive Ni web that it is all meshed into. I think that a lot of the sites that list ideal pairings suck or aren't done by people who know what they are talking about.We liked each other from the day we met, but actually we didn't date until we had been good friends for about 4 years.