Sweetening spells are employed in hoodoo and many other types of worldwide folk magic when you want someone to be sweet to you, that is -- to favour you, like you, hire you, love you, marry you, stay with you, return to you, reconcile with you, give you a written recommendation, give testimony in your favour, decide a legal issue in your favour over another, make a generous financial settlement in your favour, favour your family members over the members of other families, give you a raise, give you time off, give you paid leave, speak kindly to you at a family gathering, treat you kindly in public, stop talking behind you, cease from anger against you, cease from all wrath, cease from verbal abuse, cease from physical abuse, and so forth.
The sweeteners used in these spells vary by historical era, region of the country, commercial or home-made availability, family traditions, local traditions, and intuitive decisions.
But really, when you look at them, these spells are not so much different as they are similar.
Modern folks have taken to calling the whole family of sweetener spells "honey jar" and "sugar bowl" spells, placing an emphasis on the fact that many of them are worked in closed containers (jars and bowls), but in the oldest version of these spells that i know, there is actually no jar or bowl, just a plain white tea cup saucer or coffee cup saucer in the center of which you burn a candle on the person's name, dressed with hoodoo oils and surrounded by a poured-out ring of pancake syrup, honey, or molasses.
This old-fashioned method has the disadvantage of eventually drawing flies or ants, but it is extremely easy to work on a short-term basis, say for one to three days.
Be careful, though, if the candle burns too hot, it may crack your saucer.
The advantage to this method is that after you finish the spell, you can use the sugar in cooking, to sweeten the person on whom you are working.
The disadvantage is that you need to be careful not to catch the chipboard box on fire -- a small, skinny candle will solve that problem.
The spells given on this web page include a variety of old and new, with a focus on some the most common bottle spell variations of this spell-family that you will encounter these days, namely those that consist of filling a jar, box, bowl, or bottle with a liquid or solid sweetener into which you place the personal concerns of the person you want to influence, along with spiritually powerful magical herbs, wrapped in a name-paper or petition packet, on top of which you burn a candle that has been inscribed and then dressed with an appropriate conjure oil.
But always remember, this is a FAMILY of spells, and there is no one "approved" way to do the work.
It can be given as a gift to the person on whom you are working, and can spread its sweetness throughout their home.
During the late 19th and early 20th centuries, as packaged sugar, honey, syrup, and liquid sweeteners became available from grocery stores, another variant of this spell was developed that employed a one-pound box of sugar.
Jams and jellies are also used this way: you can stir some edible love herbs in when making them at home, or you can pray over and prepare commercial jams or jellies in the same way for use at the table in spells of domestic love.