Another man, back in the dating game after many years, kindly responded to questions about the current climate: “LDS people are more likely to avoid opposite sex friendships which won’t lead to marriage, and I think that hurts us.Doug Brinley (a BYU religion teacher) taught that you should evaluate any potential date with the question ‘Would she make a good mother of my children? People who do that miss out on many meaningful friendships.
If it’s broad enough to be a cultural phenomenon, there needs to be lots of somethings that need changing, starting at the top and extending downward.
We’ve become expert in needless suffering.” I’ve wondered the same thing as I’ve watched kids in my mostly LDS neighborhood and my own children.
It seems to me that even just making friends is a challenge for people these days . It seems my son’s friends aren’t that into dating for the most part. Agreed that lots of people think it’s not worth the effort.
At his age, I was pretty much making out whenever I got the chance. Take away the possibility of getting laid, and most introverts don’t want to bother.
For myself, I was in relationships for a lot of my 20s and early 30s, not very seriously and usually breaking up amicably.
And Mormons are by no means the only ones to date-to-marry.
There’s just nowhere for it to happen.” I think some Church authorities have been fairly liberal in their concept of dating.
Elder Ballard has promoted the idea of one on one dating, but not necessarily with the sole goal of marriage.
One friend observed that in her experience, such dry spells aren’t “uncommon in LDS circles, but *very* uncommon in secular/regular life [but see below].
The understood subtext to all dates adds an extra-weird pressure to LDS dating.
it’s about social skills, learning how to communicate with different people, and figuring out what you want and what you like. Basically, a date in the regular world isn’t a job interview. I ended up with some great male friends from my dating days.