Guys who can't get enough of every last inch of me.To them, I am a revelation - an ample woman with no body shame who says sure, let's have sex with the lights on.
Perhaps that would allow them to check off two boxes at once.
Much more toxic are the "attracted but ashamed" guys who chat me up on occasion.
One such friend tells me that he long ago stopped approaching women he was attracted to in bars.
He is a quite a conventionally attractive man, with an extremely muscular build, and his preference is for women of my size or even larger.
I dubbed 2013 my "year of fucking recreationally" and set out to find some hot, sweaty, messy, dirty, uncomplicated fun with like-minded friends. Here are some things that I learned about what it's really like to seek casual sex as a forty year old fat chick.
Now, I should note that when I tell you I'm fat, I really mean it.
They are secretly really turned on by fat women, but are so uncomfortable with that fact that they would never dream of being seen in public with one.
They are the living embodiment of the old joke, "What do a fat chick and a moped have in common?
And I'm allowed to feel that way, just as you are allowed to feel any way you wish about me.