The frequency of calls and texts declined…he was always “too busy” to hang out…he stopped initiating contact (but would always respond when I reached out to him, acting nice and normal like always)…
Eventually, I stopped reaching out because it was starting to make me feel like an idiot…and he was never to be heard from again.
And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you.
When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.
When your happiness is rooted in all sorts of things, not just him, you will never have to watch what you say or do for fear of coming off as needy because you will never be needy.
MORE: A Guy’s Take on Neediness I met this guy years ago, let’s call him Craig.
When you bend over backward to please a man, you’re not really placing a high value on yourself and he doesn’t really have to do much work to land you.
When a guy has you and gets to keep you without really putting in much effort, your stock inevitably goes down in his mind.
The chase creates the illusion of chemistry, not a real connection.
A man can sense when you’re making him chase you, and if you keep it up you’ll succeed in one thing: chasing him away.
He was a bartender at a restaurant I used to frequent and after several flirty exchanges, he finally asked for my number.
On the night of our first date, I had to delay our meeting time by a few hours because I forgot I was supposed to be having dinner with some friends.
So go out there and do your thing, be happy without him (whether him is in the picture or not), and let him be the icing on your perfect cake, rather than the flour, the eggs, the sugar and whatever other ingredients go into making a cake!