It’s hard enough trying to figure out what any guy is thinking, but it’s even more difficult to read a shy guy.When you fall for a shy campus cutie, it may not seem easy to figure out if he likes you back.
You probably shouldn’t quiz him on his opinion of the meaning of life, but asking about his favorite sports team can be a great opener.
How to Ask Him Out If you’re already friends with the shy guy you like, Greif tells collegiettes that while you should be comfortable with initiating a date, you shouldn’t rush things.
How to Chat Him Up After you walk over and make that initial contact, Ahluwalia says that “providing a warm and inviting opening” is the best way to help a shy guy engage you in conversation.
“Don't worry if you continue to be more [talkative] than him as you develop your relationship,” she says.
When you spot a cute guy across the room and think he might shy, Ahluwalia advises collegiettes to give their shy guy a “green light” by smiling or holding eye contact for a few seconds.
This makes it easier for that interested but shy guy to approach you.
Finding mutually enjoyable things to do is one way to get to know someone.” Waldon agrees and suggests that you “invite him to a social service or volunteering event that you enjoy— this is something important and meaningful to do and it will give you something to discuss, too.” When your guy is comfortable in his environment or sees you comfortable in yours, the interaction between the two of you will come naturally and easily.
How to Make Him Fall for You Once you’ve had a few low-key interactions with your shy guy, you and he will both feel comfortable enough for you to invite him to an outing, like a concert or game night, with a small group of friends.
Unlike more outgoing guys, shy guys might need a confidence-boosting signal from you to give him the courage to make a move.