This pressure is particularly acute for women, who can be called “left-over women” if they pass the age of 26 or 27 without finding a husband.
Men can find themselves similarly left-over if they wait too long to get married.
For a lot of Chinese people, serious dating starts after they’ve finished school.
Because of China’s rigorous college entrance examination, dating is rarely tolerated among high school students. That doesn’t mean that Chinese teens don’t have high school crushes or even relationships (mostly secret ones).
But in general, Chinese students leave high school with a lot less romantic experience than their American counterparts.
The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time.
While the term has several meanings, the most frequent usage refers to two or more people exploring whether they are romantically or sexually compatible by participating in dates with the other.
As you may expect, dating is a little bit different in China than it is in most Western countries.
The basics are the same—people are people everywhere—but there are still a few differences regarding culture and social cues to note.
As humans have evolved from hunter-gatherers into civilized societies and more recently into modern societies, there have been substantial changes in the relationship between men and women, with perhaps one of a few remaining biological constants being that both adult women and men must have sexual intercourse for human procreation to happen.
Humans have been compared to other species in terms of sexual behavior.
The ultimate goal of most relationships in China is marriage.
Young Chinese adults are often under a lot of pressure from the elders in their family to find a good husband or wife and get married relatively early.
Attitudes toward sex are changing, especially in more cosmopolitan cities like Beijing and Shanghai, but in general, many Chinese women see sex as a sign that a relationship is headed towards marriage.