We call this the "back turn," and it's one of those experiences guys hate more than anything.
You get that sick feeling of not just being ignored, but de-valued as well.
I even thought at one point that I was making this stuff up in my head.
Before you know it, they're all laughing and having fun. "It wasn't just "Here's a story you might relate to..." A few years back, I had a BIG problem: I was single and had just relocated to Kansas City.
I was supposed to get married, but that had fallen through, and now I was alone and on my own.
What I discovered later on - and I'll talk more about this in a second - is that if I could just get myself to take ACTION - just say as difficult as this was.
You see, I'm going to tell you something that a lot of my friends don't even know ... I've always held myself back when it came to meeting people and being more outgoing.
I I had to go over and talk to her in order to get anything started, but I couldn't seem to find a way to DO IT.
I almost felt like someone was holding me back physically, like being pinned to a wall.
(I think I must have gone through "Big Trouble in Little China" about ten times...) Between working at an office with only 4 people and sitting at home playing computer games, I wasn't meeting ANYONE. I was determined to meet these women, because I hadn't had a date in (probably longer than that, now that I think about it), and I was starting to go stir-crazy. "The longer I stayed there, the worse it got, because I had NO IDEA where to begin." How do you just go up and talk to a person you've never met before?
I ordered a Budweiser and parked myself at the bar. (This was a big mistake, and I'll explain why in a minute). I watched lots of other guys walk in, and they seemed to have no problem walking over and talking to women. I couldn't imagine how to do it, or what the hell to say... When you're in your car and on the way home, you suddenly figure out the perfect thing to open up with, even if it was only, "Hey, are you girls having fun?
Take a second right now and imagine how different your life would be if you could just manage to overcome this blockade - this barrier - in your thinking that stops you from talking to the women you want.
what other people in your life would think about you if you could erase that invisible barrier between you and the moment where you take ACTION...
Here are some other situations that I've gone through that may have happened to you: You're sitting somewhere having an ice cold beer, and you're talking to some friends.